June 25, 2008 at 4:56 pm 3 comments

I usually reserve erudite titles like this one for my other blog, but sometimes you gotta go with your first instinct.

Upon seeing an article in The Province for the social networking/dating site Beautiful People, I felt nauseous.

If you’re frightened to look at the site (and you should be): it’s a site reserved for only beautiful people to connect.

Yes, looks matter. It’s a shameful aspect of how we are built. Undeniable, true. But shameful nonetheless. And, as the Province’s expert notes “Maybe they all just deserve each other”. Truer words have never been spoken.

But on a larger scale, it’s just very sad, for that dating pool as a whole. While we generally need to be attracted to people we want to date, people become more attractive (or less, depending) the more you get to know them. Most people can attest to finding their partner increasingly sexy as they discovered more of their strength/sense of humor/personality. And how many times has a friend told you about how hot someone was, and you think “Hmmm, not very conventionally attractive” – but that wasn’t what it was about: they were attracted to something about the person physically and/or personality-wise.

How we respond to someone is about so much more that objective attractiveness. But just like the sites for people who only want to date other people who earn x amount of money or a site where someone goes to date a millionaire specifically (e.g. The Millionaire’s Club, but I shouldn’t single this one out because it is but 1 of many, many such sites – and don’t even get me started on The Bachelor…) people are free and welcome to limit their choice in partners to absurd and specific qualifications.

And this is helpful for society as well. Extremely superficial people should associate only with their own superficial kind. Save everyone else unnecessary problems.


Update: Jan 4, 2010. Apparently some are in a tizzy over the fact that the site just gave walking papers to users who gained weight over the holidays.  Waaaa?! A superficial site acting based on superficial values? Who could have seen that coming.  [Insert non-existent cry of “Outrage!”]


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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Larry Yatkowsky  |  June 26, 2008 at 12:00 am

    I’m so lucky to be pretty .>)

  • 2. Raul  |  July 1, 2008 at 12:38 pm

    That’s the rationale behind my post “The beauty and the beholder”. Our definitions of beauty are always warped by the massive attack we receive on our poor brains. Beautiful = hot, chiseled bodies, 6 packs, beautiful front packages, beautiful back packages, etc.

    But to what extent do we actually seek beauty or do we just seek an imaginary vision of what beauty means?

    Great post, Monica. I loved it.

  • 3. FunkySouth  |  October 14, 2008 at 1:57 am

    interesting post, I wonder how the millionaire’s club is doing these days, what with the economic slow down.


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